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I’m sorry about your friend Barb. I lost my best friend of 40 years. She was killed in a car accident in December of 2021. We used to spend hours on the phone talking. They need phones in heaven 💜

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Oh, Cheryl -- I'll bet you are still grieving. I know she can hear you... xoxo

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Jan, this is a beautiful story about friendship and cherishing times together. I have a friend of over 40 years, she lives in Oklahoma and I live in Colorado so we don’t see each other but only once a year, when we get together it’s like never apart. She is currently struggling with major health issues, we’ve had to cancel two different trips that were planned for this year. Hoping we can arrange a visit next month.

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Oh, Linda ~ I hope you can arrange a visit with your friend. Those old friends are the best friends. Thanks for sharing! xoxo

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I lost my best friend two years ago. . . .my husband. We met when we were 12, got married at age 19, and were together for 63 years before he died.

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Hi Janice ~ I can only image what emptiness there is with that loss. Scares me silly! xoxo

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Hi Jan, I lost my best friend of 50yrs we grew up together had our children together, had girlie holidays together always up for a laugh.

Miss her so much,but life goes on.I love reading your stories Jan and lovely memories of your friend.Take care❤️

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Thanks, Lynn for reading my blog. Life does go on, but seems so surreal sometimes without our special friends -- especially one you had for 50 years. xoxo

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Memories are good to look back on,but I don’t know about you Jan,some days you can’t help feeling down and sad.I find it difficult to talk about.You are so good with expressing yourself.I am so happy Graham formed this platform for us it is so good to read what others are going through.Take care my friend 🙏❤️

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Oh yes, there are definitely hard days! One time I was asked to speak to a group of students when one of their friends died. When I got up & opened my mouth, nothing came out, but an anguished noise. It is so hard to talk about sad things. I definitely feel lucky connecting with people like you through GW's efforts. I have to admit Heartland took me to him. I would have never known about substack without him posting his poems. I only hope he takes some of his own advice before he burns out again.

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I agree Jan,He’s young but I think he his going to burn out,he’s got to slow down.I didn’t think I would ever in a million years listen to anyone like him through watching heartland,but hey ho I did.I think he is “my guilty pleasure “😂I can’t believe I said that.Lovely talking to you.I’m in France at the moment staying with my sister for a week.Take care x

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Love it, Lynn!!! Have fun with your sister in France. xoxo

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What a beautiful memory of your friends. I, too, have laughed so hard and had mishaps. There’s nothing like a good belly laugh and friends who you cherished.

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Hi Elaine ~ we've been blessed with those good belly laughs then, haven't we?! As that old saying goes -- we didn't know we were making memories we just thought we were having fun! xoxo

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💜💜💜💜💜

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Thanks, Sherry!!! xoxo

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Lovely memories Jan. The best!

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Thanks, Rita, for reading my blog. xoxo

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Beautiful memory of your friend! I lost one of my best friends in 2021. It was very hard for me, we both taught first grade and had a lot of plans together. I can only take comfort because I always told her how much I loved and admired her and I know that her memories will always be with me. ❤

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What a beautiful tribute to your dear friend. I love that perspective. It is not about the score. It is not about the number of followers, the likes, the comments, but about am I really living for God? First and foremost and then am I being kind and encouraging? Thank you for reminding me that it is about the end, not the race!

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Jan~what a beautiful tribute to your special friend. I am sorry for your loss. I lost a very special friend almost twenty years ago. She made me laugh every day.....her outlook on life, her perspective was priceless. Her daughter and my oldest daughter are best friends. Those two, along with her husband and, I sat at the hospital that night planning Nancy’s 50th birthday surprise party...only it never happened. When we lose someone those wonderful memories certainly do become our special treasures.

Sounds like you’ve played some golf in Lima! If you come this way for more golf, please let me know. I’m not able to travel right now due to caregiving but, when I can, I still would love to do a meet & chat!!

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Jan, this is special. The memories we have can never be taken away. I lost one of my closest friends of 30 years ago last December between Christmas and New Years. He literally got up from the couch getting ready to go to bed and fell to the floor and died suddenly like that. It was a shock, but we all know is he with Jesus now. I have those memories of my friend Chip which will never fade. It is a part of life, but definitely hard, but I keep telling myself, with Good, all things possible! Thanks for sharing!

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Barb certainly was a special person.

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