Oh goodness. Here we are on the same wave length once again. I recently made the discovery that I have spent my whole life finding my confidence in my accomplishments. Not to brag, but I've always done a lot of things well. Probably because I chose to do things that I was good at. I was very socially NOT confident but I could fake it via my achievements. Now I have to figure out how to be confident in who I am and not just what I do. I guess we're never to old to learn something new about ourselves. Perfectionism has been how I coped through the years and probably stifled a lot of great experiences because they wouldn't be "perfect". So here we are wiggling together!
I have the disease of perfectionism. So much so, I'm on heaven knows how many side hustles, because what I create isn't good enough to share let alone sell. I am an artist at heart, but perfectionism stole the show long ago... funny enough, it was in home economics class where it all began. Like you I was learning to sew a dress and couldn't get the arms straight, or even the same length. Honestly, I took on too ambitious of a project, considering my mother didn't know how to sew either. Together we struggled cutting the pattern, putting the pieces together, and finally, when it was time to turn the project in for grading my mother refused to let me turn it in, haha. She said she'd rather see me get a failing grade than turn in something so disgraceful. I don't remember how that sad story ended but what I learned from that particular experience was that my mother handed down her curse of perfectionism, and it has plagued me since. Recently I gave myself permission to make bad art. It's kinda fun deliberately messing up and not worrying about it. :) Now about the strings...
Oh gosh, Patti ~ you should have seen my home ec sewing project. I put the darts in the wrong places and the sleeves on the wrong sides. Today I'm only good at sewing straight lines and using velcro. Ha! Your substack posts are awesome so I bet your artwork is too. You should feature your artwork here sometime. I'm so glad you share your articles. Have a good one today. "Here Comes the Sun." xoxo
I have always wanted to do everything perfectly. At some point, I started not even trying new things under the guise of I can’t do that. I still struggle with this from time to time. Right there with you. 😉
Oh goodness. Here we are on the same wave length once again. I recently made the discovery that I have spent my whole life finding my confidence in my accomplishments. Not to brag, but I've always done a lot of things well. Probably because I chose to do things that I was good at. I was very socially NOT confident but I could fake it via my achievements. Now I have to figure out how to be confident in who I am and not just what I do. I guess we're never to old to learn something new about ourselves. Perfectionism has been how I coped through the years and probably stifled a lot of great experiences because they wouldn't be "perfect". So here we are wiggling together!
Yes, we're enough -- so let's fly... xoxo
I have the disease of perfectionism. So much so, I'm on heaven knows how many side hustles, because what I create isn't good enough to share let alone sell. I am an artist at heart, but perfectionism stole the show long ago... funny enough, it was in home economics class where it all began. Like you I was learning to sew a dress and couldn't get the arms straight, or even the same length. Honestly, I took on too ambitious of a project, considering my mother didn't know how to sew either. Together we struggled cutting the pattern, putting the pieces together, and finally, when it was time to turn the project in for grading my mother refused to let me turn it in, haha. She said she'd rather see me get a failing grade than turn in something so disgraceful. I don't remember how that sad story ended but what I learned from that particular experience was that my mother handed down her curse of perfectionism, and it has plagued me since. Recently I gave myself permission to make bad art. It's kinda fun deliberately messing up and not worrying about it. :) Now about the strings...
Oh gosh, Patti ~ you should have seen my home ec sewing project. I put the darts in the wrong places and the sleeves on the wrong sides. Today I'm only good at sewing straight lines and using velcro. Ha! Your substack posts are awesome so I bet your artwork is too. You should feature your artwork here sometime. I'm so glad you share your articles. Have a good one today. "Here Comes the Sun." xoxo
Haha, Jan, thank you. My art projects match my sewing attempts, but I love it, so I keep trying.
I have great admiration for you and your writing... not to mention your taste in shoes :) xxoo
My kids think I’m borderline OCD! But as I get older I’m doing better.
No, not you! (chuckle) I wish I could be half as organized as you, Diane. {{Hugs}}
I have always wanted to do everything perfectly. At some point, I started not even trying new things under the guise of I can’t do that. I still struggle with this from time to time. Right there with you. 😉